A Family Mission

Lately I've been thinking a lot about having a family mission statement. Josh has been interviewing with a church, and consequently he has been talking a lot about the programs he likes to run in relation to accomplishing the mission of the ministry.

Most families probably know what they would like to accomplish or how they would like to represent themselves in public. However, when schedules get full and each person is going in a different direction, the mission is often lost under a pile of papers or tucked away with the toys that got frantically shoved in closets on the way out the door.

Without a purposed mission, that is the common goal of every participant, a ministry will fail. I think the same can be said of a family, especially in today's society where the "family unit" is under attack like never before.

As I've thought about this, I decided I wanted my family to purpose for excellence. We are going to be intentional about what we are doing so that our family will be healthy and strong. We will filter our scheduled activities through our mission statement to ensure that we are doing things for a purpose, not just to be busy. When I sign the kids up for an activity, I would like to have an end result in mind that lines up with what we want for our children.

Kintigh Family Mission Statement:

To behave in excellent behavior, showing grace to those around us and to each other while we represent our Father in Heaven. To participate in healthy and edifying activities so that Sophie and Aaron become individuals who know how to love the Lord their God with all their heart, soul, strength, and mind while also loving their neighbor as themselves.


This is a broad statement and our kids are still young. But knowing our goals now will help in the direction of our parenting too. To make it more tangible, we came up with some specific ways that the overall mission statement can be accomplished. You can find this by clicking on the "Kintigh Family Values" tab at the top of this page.

I hope you're encouraged and are inspired to be purposeful with your family too!

We ALL love Baby Callie Sue

Sophie was so proud to be holding Callie. She just kept smiling at her and kissing her all over her face. Really, none of us are any more contained when we get to hold her either!

She is being dedicated this Sunday and I told Amy that I was planning to check my kids into the nursery and hold Callie the whole service! I claimed the snuggle, so there :-) Yes, I'm really that immature. I'm trying to beat Grammy to the spot :-)

Baby #3

Hahaha...made you look, didn't I?! There is a baby and she's been the easiest by far! All the snuggles, love, smiles, little conversations...without any of the hard times. Easiest kiddo I have. I'm talking about my petite, beautiful little niece. Callie Sue is my sister Amy's little lady. I absolutely adore her and it is always too long between visits.
I know that your love for your own is always different than your love for another person's child, but Callie is not very. I'm so in love with this little girl. Amy and I have always been best friends and I'm so excited to see the relationship between her and Sophie develop too. Our whole family loves this little girl, even Josh can't resist a snuggle. It's a fun gift since our kids are getting to the "too busy to snuggle" stage.
As we pray for Sophie and AJ to become children who grow in strength and love for the LORD, we're praying too for sweet Callie.
Beyond my immediate family, talking about our family as a whole. My parents began such a Godly legacy and I'm so thankful for how God has blessed my sister's family with Callie.
Dave and Amy are great parents. Callie made the first weeks tricky and my sister championed right through them. My favorite is when I'm on the phone with her and I get to hear her talk with Callie. Even her voice pours forth with love. I know they are now very much on the difficult and rewarding road that is laid out before parents who strive for excellence, but I'm excited for them too.
We love you and we'll be walking alongside with you on our own journey too. May we share the burdens, rejoice in unison, and reach victory together! To God be the glory and thanks to Him for these children who made us Daddy and Mommy.

A Grown Up Boy

I found this chair at a garage sale for $10 and it is like new. My baby who is quickly becoming a little man loves his grown up freedom. He'll sit and bring toys to be with him in the chair or just snuggle a blanket. Sophie sneaks to read books in it but he always pushes her out! It's so funny to watch! A grown up boy for sure!

4 Years

We've had a very busy past week, which included celebrating 4 years of marriage. Seeing as I just got finished posting about our kiddos, including our almost 3 year old...it seems like I should be saying something about more years :-) Life is funny sometimes.

We were blessed to have an evening out and then a weekend marriage conference thanks to Josh's family for watching the kids! I think Grandma is probably still recovering :-)

I'm so thankful for my husband. We've been on a lot of roads during our marriage and I have seen my man go through a lot! I'm humbled and blessed by his commitment to the LORD, to our family, and to being a man of integrity.

The blog started when we got married. I titled it "A Daily Adventure in the LORD" because when we were dating, Josh would call some dates "adventures." That meant he wanted to do something together, but he usually didn't have a specific plan (NOT what parents like!).

The LORD knows His plans. I do not. But, I'm on an adventure. It means we're together in this and whatever happens...it'll be good!

Father's Day

We had a great Father's Day, relaxing and then spending time with Josh's family. Josh's one request was to watch the US Open Golf Tournament, so that's what we did! Ha Ha. I'm lucky...my man is easy to make happy!

Here's our crazy, little family before church. Finally, we teach Sophie how to smile for the camera and AJ loses it! So typical.




Disclaimer...When taking the picture, I did not realize my precious little girl was showing off her hard earned pantie-wearing privileges by not closing her cute little legs...but this is our family and I'm posting a Father's day picture. We'll work on that lesson next time. She was smiling and I wasn't going to lose that moment!

Priorities

What do you notice when you enter a home? Do your eyes initially take in the decor or the children running and squeezing past each other to see who has come to see them? Are you naturally an environment oriented person or a company (as in people) oriented person?

As I take you to Mary and Martha's home, I want you to tuck these questions into your heart for a few minutes. That's right, I said tuck them into your heart. Today, you and I need to be concerned about something reaching us to the core...as busy women we do not need more head knowledge crowding our brains. We need the Heavenly Father to touch our soul.

I did just invite you into another woman's home. But, don't worry...she's too consumed with herself, she will not even notice us.

The story picks up in the tenth chapter of the Gospel of Luke (the BIBLE).

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!" "Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her." Luke 10:38-42

Martha is not all bad. She definitely had the gift of hospitality. She opened her home to Jesus and his disciples (remember there were 12 of them, so including Jesus, that is 13 men who had been traveling). She had good intentions for being distracted. I'm sure she was baking, stacking sandles, filling water vases and glasses, fluffing pillows, doing what women do. She wanted them to be comfortable in her home. Within itself, none of these things were bad. There was just something that was BETTER. Martha felt justified in her pursuits and she thought Mary was being lazy and selfish to leave her to do all the work. But remember there was something BETTER.

Jesus reminded Martha. She was worried and upset but she didn't need to be. He wanted her to focus on the better option. Himself. His message for her. His desire to give her a gift.

Although we will not be hosting Jesus and His disciples in our home this summer, this is a season where we will probably be doing a lot of hosting. From barbecues to overnight guests. In each occasion, there is an opportunity to offer a gift to all who enter our home. May they be welcomed with grace and depart with feelings of refreshment and a desire to return soon.

It is good and right to prepare. It is right to create an environment where your guests will feel welcome. But in all of the efforts to prepare, do not lose sight of what is better. Do not be so worried about your fluffed pillows, your perfectly swept floors, your enticing meals and backyard festivities that you forget the people are most important.

Prepare for what is better. Focus on pouring into your family. So, they still feel loved in spite of company being on the evening schedule. Remember your guests are coming to see your family...not your home. And when everyone arrives and then leaves again. May they say about you, that your home and family was inviting and they leave feeling refreshed.

Suggestions to make this possible:

Do a project or cleaning task everyday leading up to the event, rather than leaving it all to the day or night before. You won't feel so overwhelmed.

Make a list of things that are really important to accomplish. Do other things, only if time and sanity allow

Know your hosting limitations. Do not sign up for more than you and your family can handle. There are different seasons in a family's life that allow for more or less hosting

Remember that your guests are the reason for hosting not the event. Focus on relationship rather than your home.

Enjoy your summer!!

Sophie's Big Morning

On Sunday Sophie had her big church debut with it being "Children's Sunday!" Her class sang 2 songs up front. Performance video coming soon (The church recorded the performance). I would just like to say, that my little girl looked SO big up on stage. She smiled, she sang, she did motions, she DID NOT run around and scream or run off the stage, she walked down the aisle with her "buddy", and she even waved perfectly at the end. All while being in the front row!

I was so proud that I cried. Yes, I'll admit it. I picked out the perfect dress and spent 20 whole minutes doing her hair. Even contemplating a little lipstick...don't worry, I stopped myself there! It was such a fun morning and she talked about it the rest of the day.





When we got home, I quickly hung the cute dress back up and tucked the "sheep ears" into her baby book!

Before we left for church, I took quite a few pictures because Sophie was smiling. And she never does that when a camera is in the vicinity. So we went overboard. And I will share. And you will be thankful I did. You will.











We're so proud of Sophie and the little lady she is becoming. Yes, some days are slower than others, but we see the light. And it is the light of the Lord in her. She is growing so fast but is getting her solid foundation in the Truth. I'm so thankful for this time that she is learning about Jesus and learning to love her Maker!

Days Like These...

"Oh, what a beautiful, lovely, noisy day" ("I dance in My Red Pajamas" Edith Thacher Hurd)

This is the very last line in one of my favorite children stories. It makes me think of life with young children, my life. My husband and I found out that we were pregnant with our oldest when we had been married for a short 5 and 1/2 months. Life has been filled with beautiful, lovely, noisy days ever since.

We have a little girl who is almost 3 and a little boy who just turned 1. Between Martha the dog talking on TV, sad cries, the laundry rattling in the dryer (which usually means a toy accidentally made it in), dishes, potty training, Sunday school lessons, play dates, wrestling bath time and nap time, etc, I could go crazy for the simple desire for quiet. For peace. For a simple minute of rest. It seems even too much to ask just to get a minute to myself when I use the restroom!

With all of that considered and the fact that I really do love my children, the Lord is teaching me that when the world around me is going crazy and I'm getting carried along with it, my spirit can be at rest. My inner heart can find peace. My soul can have quiet. This is only through my relationship with Him. He will provide these things to me, while He gives me the strength and endurance to take care of my family. All He wants me to do is love the family He gave me and to teach my children the ways of His Word. He will take care of us. He will provide. He will show us true beautiful, lovely, noisy days.

"Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth." Psalm 46:10

This song makes me think of my life. maybe. a little. too. much. I want to heed this advice and love these days.



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A Wise Momma

I saw the following on a post by Jill from Barnes Yard. It made me realize, this is not my natural bent. It also made me realize, this is what I should be trying for. I hope you're challenged and encouraged too! I lean more towards putting too high of an importance on appearance in my children because that is what I struggle with in my personal heart. As our house is on the market and it is not my job to find the buyer...I will lay it down. As my child will sometimes have accidents in her panties, despite the hours I've sat with her in the bathroom...I will lay it down.

I will unwrap the gift of two healthy children who are growing to be children who walk in a manner worthy of the gospel. May they be following the Lord, as they play with my shoes and take steps after mine.

"If I live in a house of spotless beauty with everything in its place, but have not love, I am a housekeeper - not a homemaker.
If I have time for waxing, polishing, and decorative achievements, but have not love, my children learn cleanliness - not godliness.
Love leaves the dust in search of a child's laugh.
Love smiles at the tiny fingerprints on a newly cleaned window.
Love wipes away the tears before it wipes up the spilled milk.
Love picks up the child before it picks up the toys.
Love is present through the trials.
Love reprimands, reproves, and is responsive.
Love crawls with the baby, walks with the toddler, runs with the child, then stands aside to let the youth walk into adulthood.
Love is the key that opens salvation's message to a child's heart.
Before I became a mother I took glory in my house of perfection. Now I glory in God's perfection of my child.
As a mother, there is much I must teach my child,
but the greatest of all is love."
--Unknown Author, At least to Me.

May you take this to heart today, and unwrap the gift God is giving you.

The Fire Truck

AJ received this fire truck from Josh's parents for his birthday! I wasn't sure if he would figure it out at the beginning (I was pretty sure, he's just never tried one before this) but he's taken off...literally! He LOVES it. Sophie loves it too, so we work on taking turns and learning that it belongs to AJ.

It's been so fun to see him drive everywhere. He is constantly amazing me with what he can do!

A Big Step

I am not going to post pictures :-), but I wanted to document that Sophie is excelling in this time of potty training! She is doing so well in her big girl panties and has overall had very few accidents. She is in panties during nap time, waking up dry, and actually woke up with a dry diaper just this morning after bed time!

Yesterday was the first day that we were away from home but she did very well. She had dry panties the whole day and even told me when she needed to go! I was so impressed that she wasn't scared to go in all the different restrooms!

This is the latest milestone in a long list that shows me how much my baby is growing up. She is an absolute delight and always makes us smile with her cute phrases or stories. She gives big hugs and loves people. She is so smart in her playtime, loving puzzles and matching and counting. She enjoys books very much, yet still has her deep love for running, climbing, and playing outside. She has so much fun when friends come over and delights in her class (Sunday School). She is very good at learning songs, especially the ones with dancing and motions. We still have to remind her sometimes, but she's very good with her brother and is so excited when he's up from his naps. She is a big helper and loves to "do it" herself.

We'll be signing her up for swim lessons this summer and contemplating preschool for fall. It is beyond me how she can already be turning 3 in August! I should realize this since I just had to get her new shoes and clothes. She's petite but very tall!

We are so glad she's in our family and delight in her spirit. We're praying she continues with her love for Bible songs and praying. We are so proud of the little lady she is becoming and are excited to see what God has in store for her life.

A Garden Party for AJ

This past Saturday, we had a garden party for AJ. Complete with a grass table and a garden bug/caterpillars cake! More pictures of the party to come since my sister-in-law had the camera. I so appreciate her artistic eye and willingness to capture the time! These are just the pictures of all the decor right before it started!

It was a perfect time in the morning and we were so thankful to our friends who came to play. The sun even peeked out for a little bit to allow playtime outside! We had sun tea, muffins, fruit, and cake. Of course, AJ loved his birthday cake and had so much fun snuggling with Grandma and crawling over to see each of his friends!










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Silly AJ

The Little Man is #1

Our Aaron Joshua (We call him AJ) is one! Officially on Thursday. This just seems like a huge milestone for our family. We're finished having kids and now our baby isn't a baby anymore. I'm so glad that Amy and Dave have Callie now because I can snuggle her and breathe in that sweet, brand-new smell!

AJ is cruising everywhere, standing for longer periods, and getting Sophie every chance he gets. Saying he loves his food is an understatement and he'll tell you what's up! I'm not joking. He is one LOUD child. He is loud happy, loud sad, and loud angry. Sometimes when I'm on the phone, I have to go into the other room just to hear the other person! He has an adorable smile that he's quick to share and he would always prefer to have someone hold him. He loves to wrestle and throw toys. He loves to play with things he's not supposed to have. He is ALL boy and we love it!

I am a girly girl who, at one point before him, thought that I only wanted or only "could" survive with girls. Now, I don't know what I would do without my little man. Maybe I would finish a meal in one sitting or have less back aches or sleep all night long but I would miss out on big hugs, slimy kisses, melting at husky giggles, and being the mom to a little man who is going to grow up too quickly!

We love you AJ and are so glad you completed our family. We're praying that you grow in wisdom and statue, learning to love God your whole life through.

Eagle Crest

Our friends John and Betsey shared a vacation with us! They had been given a week in Eagle Crest and could only use the second half, so they gave us the first part! We were there from a Friday until a Tuesday and we had so much fun!

The condo was beautiful and the perfect size for our family. The master bedroom even had a jacuzzi tub that the kids had so much fun in. We also took them to Bouncing Off the Wall which is an indoor play center. Sophie ran and ran and ran! We took big walks and spent a lot of time at the park. Sophie and AJ played together so well. They do a really good job of laughing and being silly. They even slept in the same room and did so well!

The time was truly refreshing for our family and a great time to make memories!

On Tuesday we had a WONDERFUL time with John and Betsey. They're so much fun and we're so thankful for how they love our kiddos too! Sophie adores "Mr John and Mrs Betsey" and Betsey is training AJ to say she's his favorite, which I don't think will need much convincing! It is such a gift when you have those friends that both you and your husband love and it's so easy to get along with! Everything can become a fun time!